More than likely, your lovely fiance has already chosen her 'maids, and now you're stuck with the task of finding just the right number of family or friends to pair them with. Here's some tips on how to choose who makes the cut.

Who Makes It
Remember, no matter what your family or friends say, there are not people that "must" be in the wedding party. You should choose the buddies you are close with, not obligated to. If you're unfamiliar with wedding etiquette, however, here's the "usual" rules for including groomsmen in your wedding party.

Your and your bride's brothers come first. Unless there are strange circumstances, your brothers and her brothers are automatically in the wedding party. Next, your closest friends who may or may not be family.

The Best Man
You will want to choose the man that is closest to you, who has been there for you, and whether that's a blood relative or a close friend, you will be glad at the time of the wedding that you chose your best friend.

Expectations
Make sure your pals know about their responsibilities as a groomsman. Travel and accomodations, attending the rehearsal and dinner, renting a tuxedo and seating guests at the wedding are just a few. If this is manageable for your buds, you're in business.

Who Doesn't Make It
A lot of money and effort is being spent on this, the biggest day of your life. That friend who gets too drunk, who is late for everything, who has a reputation of not showing up for important events is not the best choice for a groomsmen. Basically, if there's a question whether your skiing buddy "GangiaDaddy" will fulfill his duties, you probably shouldn't ask. You want your most responsible friends with you on this very special day.

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